Life and Love
Life is the progression of finding love; every person will need to discover four people in their existence. First person is you. Second person is the one you love most. Third person is the one who love you most and the fourth is the one you spend the rest of your life with…
In life, primarily, you will meet the one you love most, and find out how love feels. Because you recognize how love feels, so you can find the person who loves YOU most. When you experienced the feeling of loving others and being loved, you will then know what it is you need most. Then you will find the person who is most suitable for you, to be able to spend the rest of your life with.
Despondently, in genuine life, these three people are usually not the same person. The one you love most does not love you. The one, who love you most, is never the one you love most and the one you spend your life with, is never the one you love most or the one who love you most. He is just the person who happens to be at the right place at the right time.
Which person are you in other people’s life? No person will purposely reconsider. At the point in time when he loves you, he really loves you. Nevertheless, when he does not love you anymore, he really does not love you anymore. When he loves you, he cannot pretend that he does not. It goes, when he loves you no more, there’s no way he can pretend he loves you.
When a person does not love you and wants to leave you, you must ask yourself if you still love him. If you also do not love him anymore, do not keep him just to save your pride. If you still love him, you should wish him happiness, and hope that he will be with the one he loves mot, not stop him from it. If you stop him from finding true happiness with the one he loves, it shows you already don’t love him, and if you don’t love him, what rights do you have to blame him for a change of heart?
Love is not selfish.
If you like the moon, you cannot just take it down and put it in your basin. However, the moonlight still shines upon you. In other words, when you love a person, you may use another method of possessing the person. Let him become a permanent memory in your life.
If you really love a person, you must love him for what he is. Love him for his good points, and the bad. You cannot wish for him to become like what you like him to be just because you love him. If he cannot change to become what you like him to be, you do not love him anymore.
When you really love a person, you cannot find a reason why you love him. You only know that no matter when and where, good mood or bad, you will wish to have this person to be with you. Real love is when two people can go through the toughest problems without asking for promises or listing criteria. In a relationship, you have to put in effort and give in at times, not always be on the receiving end.
Being away form each other is a type of test. If the relationship is not strong, then you can only admit defeat. Real love will never become hate. When two people are in love, they love to ask each other to swear, to make promises… Why do they ask each other to swear and promise? Because they do not trust each other, they do not trust their lover.
These swear and promises are useless:
“Till the sky falls, till the ocean dry, my love for you will never change!”
We all know that the sky will never fall; the ocean will never dry. Even if it does happen, are we still alive by then?
Be careful when making promises; do not make promises that you cannot keep. Swear by things that can never happen, because it can never happen, so no harm just saying it casually. Remember, swearing by things that can never happen are the most touching?
In a relationship, what you say is one thing, but what you do is another; the one saying does not believe; the one listening also does not believe.
“Just because someone doesn’t love you the way you want them to, doesn’t mean they don’t love you with all they have…”